You can't reach a goal until you do it

You can't reach a goal until you do it

Everyone, please think about your big goal. Real - you can take a moment. You need to hear this to read it. Take a few seconds and think about your big goal, okay? Consider now what you will do. Imagine telling someone you are meeting today what you are going to do. Think of their superior image of you. Doesn't it, sound good to say it out loud? Don't you feel close to one step, as if it were already part of your identity? The bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut because that good feeling now will make you less likely to do it. Repeated psychological testing has proven that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen. Whenever you have a goal, there are some steps you need to take, one that needs to be done to achieve it. Ideally, you would not be satisfied until you do the job well. But when you tell someone your intentions and they accept it, psychologists have found that it is called "social truth." 

The mind is a form of deception to feel that it has already been done. And then because you have felt satisfied, you are less motivated to do the hard work required. So this is contrary to the common wisdom of telling our friends our goals, right? So they clung to it. So, let's look at the evidence. 1926: Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology, called this "substitution." 1933: Wera Mahler was discovered and adopted, sounding realistic. In 1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a comprehensive book on this, and in 2009 he conducted new experiments that were published. 

It goes like this: 163 people in four different tests. Everyone wrote down their own goal. After that half of them announced their commitment to the policy in the room, and half did not. After that everyone was given 45 minutes of work that would lead them directly to their goal, but they were told they could stop at any time. Now, those who shut their mouths worked every 45 minutes on average, and when asked after that, they said they felt there was a long way to go to achieve their goal. But those who announced it stopped after only 33 minutes, on average, and when asked after that, they said they felt very close to achieving their goal. 

So if this is true, what can we do? You can resist the temptation to declare your goal. You can delay the excitement that comes with social acceptance, and you can understand that your mind makes a mistake in verbal action. But if you need to talk about something, you can say it in a way that does not satisfy you, such as, "I really want to run this marathon, so I need to train five times a week and kick my ass if not, okay?" your, what will you say Absolutely! Well done.