First appearance and future relationship

First appearance and future relationship

The connection between the first appearance and future relationship. Now, as I just got up here, always, or - oh my God, I'm sorry. While I was standing here, carrying my index cards with a lovely life, you all did a little thing called the first appearance. And it's not your fault. All of us - well, I didn't get a click. Sorry, guys. Thank you. Okay, so as human beings, we make 10 to 20 images of what we think a human personality is like based on 15 seconds of conversation. 

Now, let's do some math. In these 10 to 20 pictures - let’s say we meet two young people a day seven days a week; that's about 200 new photos we've created of people based on 200 seconds of conversation. Now, another interesting fact: 85% of these images will simply be dead, even in the same ballpark of human nature, and only 15% will be far from the reality of how they behave in public. 

Now, let me tell you about a humorous little story made by people entitled "Making the First Impression," Ravi talks about meeting Mallesh at a bar. They both started talking. Things are going well. A little laughter, a giving conversation, all you want is a good first impression. But it is slippery. Improper reaction to humor. He did not laugh. With a moment or two of unsettling silence, the two shut down any opportunity for any kind of future connection. Now, I know what you're all thinking. "Why do I need to hear the story of a girl who can't find a boyfriend?" And you are not. I'm not here to tell you the sad story for everyone because I can't - there are so many.  let you know how seriously we all take this first impression. 

Now, after all these numbers and stories, some of you may not be 100% sure about what I am trying to say. Let me tell you. I just ask you to look at my points. The next time you meet someone, ask a few more questions, be interested in their answers, and keep the conversation alive long enough for you to create an accurate picture of what that person is like. If you come to a conclusion too quickly, you may not know what the relationship might be like. When I was in college, my maths teacher, Ms. Magia, once told me, "John, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take." Now, I've found that this quote is very relevant to this situation, so I took a moment and said: "You end all friendships that you don't start with." Good, yes? Good, yes? Anything else. The fact is that you may be talking to your soulmate, a longtime friend, perhaps even a future husband or wife, and all can be lost if you jump to conclusions about their future. 

Therefore, have mercy on me. The next time you meet someone, try all of these things: an interesting conversation, an extension of time in the first conversation because I promise you one day you will look back and think, "Wow, man, he was right. I wish there was a way to thank him". if you just can't wait to thank me for my wise advice. No, it's just a joke. However, in all seriousness, you will be grateful that you spent the next 15 seconds of your life talking with someone with whom you could spend the next 15 years of your life.